For those of you who may not be familiar with the saying, “to tie the knot” means to get married!
There’s a lot to love about weddings! They are beautiful, entertaining, and a great excuse to get together with friends, family and loved ones. Plus, nothing beats being in the presence of two people that are happily celebrating their love.
However, planning a wedding is no easy task. Wedding planning requires, months and months of researching, budgeting, making excel spreadsheets, and going to an endless stream of appointments. As one can imagine, wedding planning stress can push anyone over the edge!
I’ve been in wedding planning mode for a few months and have found a few ways to manage my wedding planning stress, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t a trying process. If you are gearing up to tie the knot, there are a few things you need to expect when planning your wedding. Stay tuned for 6 things you should definitely brace yourself for when planning a wedding.
1. Planning a Wedding means Decisions! Decisions! Decisions!
When you are getting ready to tie the knot, you will inevitably become more decisive. Planning a wedding ultimately comes down to a series of decisions, some of which need to be made quickly.
You, your partner, and anyone else helping finance the wedding will get used to banging out decisions to keep the ball rolling. You may even have to make some last minute decisions on your wedding day
From the big ones (like choosing a venue and location) to the small ones (like which font to use on your invitations), you will very quickly learn to make decisions like a boss!
Just be careful who you involve in the planning, because that is when things can get messy and wedding planning stress is usually high enough without involving complicated people. This brings me to my next point . .
2. People will get on your last damn nerve
Something about weddings really brings out the crazy in people. The level of entitlement that comes out is really astounding! Much of my wedding planning stress has come from other people.
I have learned that people will show no boundaries, make demands of you and your partner, and call you a bridezilla when you don’t give in.
The fact is you won’t be able to make everyone happy, so you need to remember that you are planning a wedding based around what you and your partner want. Anyone who isn’t dropping their hard-earned dollars on your wedding needs to have a seat, or several of them.
When people start asking bratty questions, demanding you adjust your plans to accommodate them, insisting on a plus one and several kids, or are pissed you didn’t offer a raw vegan keto menu on your wedding day, be prepared to politely but sternly tell them to fall back.
When they are ready to tie the knot, they can do it their way, but this is YOUR day, and it should be the way you want it.
3. Bridal party drama
There is just no way to avoid it! If you don’t have a bridal party, then you will have to hear what a disappointing a decision that was.
If you have a small bridal party, get ready for the backlash that will come from the people not in it.
If you have a big one, get ready for gossiping, infighting and spending a ton of money on bridesmaids’ gifts.
You just can’t 100% win on this front!
Do what you think is best for you, your partner and the wedding you envision. Again, there is no possible way to please everyone when it comes to wedding planning.
The best thing you can do is choose your bridal party carefully, delegate the tasks so each person has something they are taking the lead on, and periodically check in with each person to make sure everything is all good so that when the day comes for you to tie the knot, everything is perfect and there is not too much bridal party drama on your wedding day.
4. You will get A LOT of Attention on your wedding day and after
People love weddings, and they do not mind inserting themselves in your wedding business.
I’ve noticed that new people I meet always want to chat about wedding planning and how he proposed.
If I’m getting my hair or makeup done and they notice my ring, we inevitably fall into a conversation about how I want to look on the big day, or about how planning a wedding is so stressful.
Old friends and family members check in more frequently, ask about planning and share cute wedding related articles they find online.
As annoying as the attention can be – and as expensive as the whole process may be – remember that this is also a beautiful, special time in your life that deserves to be celebrated. Enjoy every moment you can, because hopefully you’ll only tie the knot once!
5. You will suddenly want to binge watch wedding planning shows
Though not necessarily stressful for the bride, it may stress out everyone else around you because you are so obsessed. They will be okay I promise. Enjoy those shows girl!
Truthfully, I had a minor wedding obsession before I even got engaged, so once that rock was on my finger it was game over!
I know not every bride is into the wedding industrial complex, but I have always dreamed a little bit about my big day. As soon as you get steeped in wedding planning, you will find yourself way more tempted to start binge watching wedding shows.
It may be shows that focus on adventures in dress shopping like Say Yes to the Dress, or something on the verge of complete insanity like 90 Day Fiancé.
Kick back and enjoy them, they make for pretty good entertainment and can help you finalize some of the things you want to have on your wedding day.
6. Something (probably more than one thing) will go wrong
Of course you are going to try to make your day perfect, but it’s inevitable that something will go wrong before you tie the knot, and possibly even on your wedding day.
Vendors go out of business, bridal boutiques shut down, products and produce get recalled, and mother nature does whatever she damn well pleases.
The more you can prepare for the unanticipated disaster the better. For example, my wedding is in a little chateau in the French countryside and you better believe I’m bringing in outdoor toilets. 75 guests eating soft French cheese plus old school country plumbing can easily end in disaster.
Weather patterns have been extreme and more unpredictable, so have a plan B for shelter if you are having an outdoor wedding, and ways for guests to stay warm or cool off.
Triple check all of your vendor agreements, and ask them about their contingency plans, preferably before you sign those contracts! And whatever you do – do not check your wedding dress if you are flying to your wedding! You do not want to be without your wedding dress on your wedding day.
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When you are ready to tie the knot, minimize the wedding planning stress as much as possible. Remember:
Wedding planning stress is normal! None of these situations are necessarily easy to deal with. If you need to take a break, take one. Finally, always remember that this day is for YOU and YOUR SPOUSE, not anyone else. Some feelings may have to be hurt to make sure that you feel your absolute best!
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Mish (Pronounced Meesh) Truth has always been a natural social justice advocate. She now holds BA in Psychology and will hold an MSW by May 2021. She is currently a goal coach, a tutor, and a writer.
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